People who have been pushed around by their parents’ moods since childhood.
…who have often been angry with me since childhood.
People who have been denied by their parents no matter what they have done since childhood.
Those who have had such a childhood will deny themselves that they are bad when they grow up.
Children like their parents, so they act to be liked by their parents.
No matter how unreasonable a parent may have said or done something, the child will never think that the parent is at fault.
They think it is their own fault for not following their parents’ instructions.
However, the thought of feeling bad about yourself always fosters anxiety and fear in your mind, and your thoughts become a search for what you did wrong.
So when you grow up, you will think that you are at fault for things that are not your fault. So when you grow up, you start to think that you are at fault for things that are not your fault.
Also, even if the other person does something wrong, they cannot get angry because they think they are at fault too, so it is easy for them to take a licking attitude.
But just because you feel bad does not mean that you do not have anger.
As adults, our thoughts move faster than our feelings of anger, and we get into the habit of thinking of excuses for our bad behavior.
The habit of ignoring the heart.
This is a very difficult thing to do.
Because you are looking for reasons to blame yourself for something you did not do wrong in the first place, your thoughts pull excuses for your bad behavior from all possible sources.
Was that a bad thing to say?
Was he acting funny?
…I thought he was acting that way because I wasn’t pretty enough? …etc.
I can think of endless excuses.
Why do you want to pretend you were so bad?
It is because the mind is the easiest thing to convince itself that it is wrong.
And this thinking also increases loneliness and loneliness.
