The heart always wants love.
The capacity of this love of the heart actually varies from person to person in a thousand ways.
Some people have a heart that can be satisfied with a small capacity of love due to their natural disposition, while others need to receive a lot of love to be satisfied.
It is not that one is better or worse than the other, but rather that they are different in quality.
And the process of upbringing and environment can lead to an excess or deficiency of love.
It would be good if the capacity of love one receives in the environment in which one grows up matches the capacity of love in one’s own heart and one becomes an adult in good balance, but on the contrary, when one becomes an adult with insufficient capacity for love, one tries to receive love from others.
And when the behavior of receiving love goes too far, we fall into the trap of dependence.
If you have the feeling that your capacity for love is always insufficient, even as an adult, love will never increase in your heart unless you give it to yourself.
Because if you don’t do the act of giving love to yourself, you don’t know what kind of love you want in the first place. If you don’t give love to yourself, it is because you don’t know what kind of love you want in the first place.
But there are many people who try their best to get love from others without knowing what love they want.
I think that is what the desire for approval is all about.
However, no matter how much approval it receives from others, the mind can only be temporarily satisfied.
Rather, when we are temporarily approved by others, it stimulates our minds and brings a feeling of elation, a satisfaction similar to love, to our hearts.
This makes people want similar stimuli again, and it is easy for the behavior to escalate.
However, since this is pseudo-love, it is not what the heart really desires, so the heart will never be truly satisfied no matter how long it takes.
So ultimately the mind and body become exhausted.
