People who tell it like it is and have been called selfish by their parents cannot say what they really think.
Because they believe that their true feelings (as they are) = selfishness, they believe that they will get in trouble if they express their thoughts and opinions.
Not speaking one’s true feelings is effective for relationships when one is a child, but it is a disadvantage when one enters society as an adult.
Because in adult society, we are told to “speak our mind.
Expressing one’s opinion means one’s thoughts and feelings.
This is actually something that you cannot say unless you have the habit of saying it since childhood.
Parent-child communication is very important to create this saying habit.
If parents listen to their children on a regular basis, children will have the habit of expressing their thoughts and feelings honestly, and they will be able to express their own opinions even after they enter the workforce.
However, if a parent does not listen to the child’s story by telling him or her not to be selfish, or if a parent denies or interrupts the child when he or she speaks, the child will not be able to say his or her thoughts and ideas, rather than not being able to say them.
This is because there is no point in telling a story from the child’s point of view if the parent denies it or does not listen to him or her.
It is natural for a child raised in such a manner to be confused, to look at the other person’s face, or to be silent when told by those around him or her to “speak his or her mind” as an adult.
Even in the above situation, when I was a child, I think I could manage because I had adults and friends who followed me around, but unfortunately, this approach does not work in adult society.
