Why are we asked to “give your opinion” when we enter the workforce? I think few people have ever thought neatly about the following.
The situations in which people are asked for their opinions vary from person to person, but in fact, the act of “imagining and thinking” is exhausting because it takes more energy than you think.
A simple example would be.
In a conversation about going out to eat…
A “What do you want to eat?”
B “Anything is fine.”
A “You say anything is fine, but at least think about what you want for a minute.”
B “Well, really, anything is fine.”
A “If you really want anything, let’s eat ramen.”
B “Eh, ramen? I’m not really in the mood for ramen…”
A “I said anything is fine!”
I am sure many of you have seen or heard conversations like this.
The above conversation may seem like a conversation where you let the other person think and you think nothing of it, but if you look at the conversation, you can see that while saying “whatever is fine,” “I don’t want to eat ramen because I don’t feel like it.” But if you look at the conversation, you can see that B’s thought (opinion) is “I don’t want to eat ramen because I don’t feel like it.
But if they had expressed their thoughts (opinions) first, problems that might offend or make others feel uncomfortable would not occur, but people who have been told that what is is is selfishness do not understand this, so they do not express their opinions.
Rather, they feel that they will be denied or offended if they express their opinions and are selfish.
However, making a proposal with consideration for the other person is “an act that requires careful thought and care about the other person’s circumstances and surroundings,” so the person making the proposal becomes tired.
As a result, they are often perceived as thinking only of themselves, and this often leads to problems in their relationships with work, friends, acquaintances, and love.
